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Does Your Boss Make You Hate Your Job?

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If your boss is getting to your nerves, you are not the only one.

You might want to keep it a secret as you find a new gig or get to reality.

It is a frustrating experience as you wake up every morning meeting a face you dread but cannot avoid.

Can you manage the next few months in that environment? Usually people have no options as a bad boss is a common reason why people change work.

It taxes on your motivation by a LOT, and even if it is a job you like, a boss can change your perception.

However, if you know the cause of your demotivation you are already one-step ahead in solving your problems.

It is now the test of patience and integrity. Your boss can be a sexist, egoistic, hypocritical, or inconsiderate but luckily you’ve landed on the right page.

The truth is you still love your job and that is the main reason you are sticking around.

Unless you have another job waiting, which is very unlikely, you might want to deal with your imperfect scenario by using these tried and true methods in this article.

I hate my job because of my boss is a common phrase that people have to address with time and usually, the end reality is a great job, bad boss.

Here is how to deal with your workplace scenario.

Don’t quit just yet, not until you are ready


Most times we are driven by emotions to make drastic decisions that we may have to pay for in a long period.

No matter how insensitive and bigot you think your boss is, you have no option as of now.

You might be unhappy for a whole month because of the same face every morning that may be torturing your mind.

You might be justified, and the boss is wrong. But let’s face it; you need the job and let alone liking it, you need to pay bills.

Sending that resignation letter to quit can be fancy and fulfilling but only for a week or two then you realize home is boring and bills will be coming the next month.

Actually, you will miss the work environment especially if you had passion in the job and you’re attached to your work colleagues, and that is why it is wise to make calculated moves.

Of course you can’t allow your whole life to be miserable because of a job but you also need to make short term sacrifice for a long term good.

Document


This sounds weird but it will save you from lots of trouble. Get a notebook for your venting.

Anytime your boss does something irritating or you find inappropriate, be sure to write it down, every time.

Obviously you get disturbed and angry which is why you want to quit, but writing down what he/she does to annoy you will help you release pressure and stress.

While talking it out is the best way to vent, it can cost your job because your colleague might have a different opinion.

It is also unprofessional.

Therefore, keep writing whenever it happens.

It will keep you from making sudden and insensitive decisions like storming to your bosses office to resign without much consideration.

Look in the mirror


Take time and go back to history with your boss.

Be open-minded.

Try to find the primary cause of your strenuous relationship.

Is the boss biased or you are over sensitive? Probably you didn’t get a promotion and you still think it was unfair.

Find out of the exact cause of why you hate your boss.

Accountability is an effective way of improving relationships; both social and professional.

In some cases, the boss is not the issue; you might find out all other people in your department are treated the same way but you are clouded by your sensitivity.

Probably you are just needy.

Change perspective


After self-evaluation and you are convinced your boss is still the issue, try to walk in the bosses shoes.

What would you do in one of the scenarios as a boss?

The boss might be in a fix and constrained by company policies and business goals with no option other than to push for reforms and performance.

There is always a boss of the boss so try to find out hierarchy in the company and the kind of environment your boss is operating in.

The micromanaging effect might be resulting from pressure from a senior manager in the organization.

In such a case, a little sympathy will help you calm down and work as per the expectations.

Understanding that he is not the issue or not doing it out of hate or biasness will create a good working environment.

Understanding needs of the boss and trying to deliver will obviously calm him down.

Meet your boss


If you think it is too much and you can’t make any sense out of the bosses actions, consider scheduling a meeting to clear the air.

Express your frustrations and let your boss respond.

Try to be calm and professional while airing your grievances.

Whether you are working online or you meet on a daily basis, request for an appointment on official terms.

You might be surprised that the boss is ignorant of the actions and previous scenarios that are giving you sleepless nights.

Quitting or changing jobs is a solution but not the only way to deal with a boss you think to be bad.

Before leaving your job without a backup plan, read this article on quitting WITHOUT burning bridges.

It is a good read 🙂

Conclusion


A boss can make or break your employment there’s no doubt about it.

There’s lots of scenarios where people absolutely love their job and their colleagues but the boss just ruins that every single time.

In this instance you should not quit immediately but instead figure things out and these tips I’ve mentioned will help you.

However, if you hate even 2/3, for example; your boss and job, the bad is outweighing the good and you might want to find a new job asap.

If you still don’t know what to do, here’s 6 more ways to deal with a difficult boss.

Have anymore tips to add to this list? Leave them in the comments below!

6 thoughts on “Does Your Boss Make You Hate Your Job?”

  1. Hi Brandon!

    I like your idea of documenting what your boss does to tick you off. It really does relieve the anger you feel by getting it out on paper. I personally have written in a journal the times I have felt upset or depressed from any of my personal stresses, so I know how much it actually helps. Better to write it than do something you will end up regretting!

    Thank you for sharing these tips!
    Amanda (Mandy)

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    • It’s scientifically proven that if you have someone to vent your frustrations to such as a co worker, friend, family member, partner, etc, you relieve stress and it helps with the entire situation rather than just keeping it all bottled up.

      Because if you don’t talk to someone about your frustrations, it’s not going to end well when you suddenly burst out. You might end up hitting your boss, quitting on the spot, burning bridges, who knows to be honest.

      I’m glad to help.

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  2. Great Post. Key point, don’t quit to early, there may be ways to work it out or even switch bosses, if possible. If all else fails, quit. We’re in an era where there are plenty of jobs, even fill in jobs until something else comes along.

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    • That’s a great idea Scott. I know fear of failure and uncertainty is what stops people from switching jobs, as that means getting out of your comfort zone and not a lot of people like doing that.

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  3. Hey Brandon,
    have you looked into my mind or are you able to see through it?
    You just tell it as it really is. And you’re not committing the crime of painting everything pink and baby blue.
    What you share is practical and extremely useful.
    Thanks for making me want even more to escape my 9-to-5 grind for a better life ahead.
    Veit

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    • No worries Veit, it was all my pleasure 🙂 Never give up your dream my friend, as there’s plenty of opportunities waiting for us to grab!

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