Do you feel you’re absent in your child’s or children’s life?
Even though you see your kids everyday, you feel that you are missing the most important parts…watching them learn, grow and find their way in the world!
That’s probably because you are a working mom and you don’t want to be anymore.
Well you are not alone and if you want to be there for your kids and actually immerse yourself into the stay-at-home lifestyle, then there’s going to be some massive changes that you need to make happen.
You have to get out of your comfort zone and do things you’ve never done before.
And in this article I’m going to explain what these things are, some critical tasks to accomplish and then finally, how to quit your job and be a stay-at-home mom.
A Stay-At-Home Mom is a Full-Time Job
Some might say that if you’re a stay-at-home mom then you’re unemployed.
Well this couldn’t be any further from the truth.
A stay-at-home mom IS a full-time job and the majority of society don’t realize that, unless you’re a stay-at-home mom of course.
You have to tend to the kids in the morning, in the after noon, at nighttime, and even in the middle of the night.
And you don’t even get paid for it, because watching them grow and creating an unexplainable bond that lasts a lifetime is priceless.
And that’s why most moms want to stay home with their kids because being there for them through thick and thin is one of the best things you can offer your child, no matter their age.
Being a Stay-At-Home Mom is CONSTANT
The biggest concerns of new stay-at-home moms is that they don’t know what to expect.
Well there are 2 answers.
It is easy and it is hard.
Easy in the sense that the daily tasks are easy but the struggles come when you realize that it is continuous and your day-to-day life doesn’t change that much.
You’re taking care of the kids 24/7, plus managing household duties.
You’re always on duty no matter what, rain or shine, sick or not sick, you are the queen keeping the household together.
That is the hardest part about being a stay-at-home mom.
It can become emotionally tough at times but I’ve talked to many moms and they say the benefits far outweigh the bad.
Lets discuss them below.
The Benefits of Being a Stay-At-Home Mom
Your Kids Will Love You For It – The biggest benefit of staying at home is that your kids will love you for being there with them and sharing their growing moments with you. This will create an unbreakable bond that lasts a lifetime
You Aren’t Part Of The Rat Race – You aren’t apart of societies rat race anymore. You are in a league of your own, which is to create the best home for your children…the best and most safest haven you can build
Allows The Family To Function Better – You understand your kids more and they understand you better. This is priceless in a home as problems can be solved quickly without high stress levels. Plus having this level of understanding will move on in teenage years and even adulthood!
You Save On Daycare Costs – Daycare prices are very costly, we all know that. If you’re putting your child into daycare 5 days a week, you could be paying anywhere from $300-$1500 per month
You Never Get Bored – This is a full-time job, so you’re always running around doing things. You always have something to do and that’s why in this lifestyle you never get bored. And if you do get bored, just find a hobby
You Spend Far Less Money – One surprising benefit of staying home is you save a lot of money. You don’t have to get that latte in the morning and afternoon anymore, you don’t have to buy that expensive lunch, you don’t have to invest in make-up just to look good throughout the day. Everything you need is at home, including yummy food which you can make yourself!
Do You Have an Important Role in the Workplace?
Believe it or not, but if you’re in a lower position in your company, quitting is as easy as 1, 2, 3.
Put your 2 weeks notice in writing and hand it to your boss as soon as you want to.
On the other hand, future stay-at-home moms who have important roles are scared of leaving because they don’t want to “rock the boat” and upset their boss or coworkers.
This is likely to happen when you’re a manager or have a more important role.
This causes you to freeze up and not take action when you just THINK of quitting to pursue your dream of being a stay-at-home mom.
Well don’t let this stop you because you’re living to make yourself happy, not everyone else.
Think of it this way.
Will your leaving of the company affect anyone in the next year? What about the next 5 years?
Nope, you’d probably be forgotten in the next 3 months so don’t fret about upsetting people.
Everyone will move on quickly believe it or not, which is why you need to do what makes you happy and that’s it.
Save Enough Money to Last at Least 3 Months
No one knows what the future holds especially when you’re doing something so far out of your comfort zone.
So saving enough money to last at least 3 months after you quit your job is going to make the transition as smooth and stressfree as possible.
This means if things get difficult at your spouses job, such as unforeseen circumstances like a lay off, redundancy or if he gets fired, then you’ve got money saved to keep you going for the next 3 months.
This will give your spouse enough time to find a new job without creating too much stress for both of you.
It’s giving you security and you should not overlook this step if you like being comfortable and prepared for the worst.
Consider Cutting Back Your Hours
If you’re scared of putting your family in jeopardy by quitting and not having enough money to take care of your children, then one way around this is by cutting back your hours.
Maybe go from 40 hours per week down to 20, or even just 2 days per week.
You’re not completely quitting your job but you still get to be a stay-at-home mom with a little more security than not working at all.
Of course it’s not the full experience as staying home full-time, but it still gives you the best of both worlds with a little more security.
This might be a better option for you if you’re still “on the fence” about what you want to do.
Test the waters and see what you like, that’s the only true way to find what makes you happy while giving your children the best life possible.
Be Aware of the Transition Process
Every mother is different when it comes to transitioning from a working mom to a stay-at-home mom.
As long as you’re aware of the transition process, then you know what to expect.
Some mothers, especially those coming from fast-paced jobs, may experience a feeling of loneliness.
Because they’ve gone from a busy 9-5 rat race to a more lowkey lifestyle.
It’s not uncommon to experience depression either, so just keep that in mind.
But thankfully these are all temporary and once you get use to being a stay-at-home mom, everything will feel normal again.
Making Extra Income
Most stay-at-home moms get free time when the kids are asleep, at daycare or even school.
This is their “me” time. This is their few hours free time they get each day to themselves.
This could be a nap or a hobby.
But in my opinion, this is a great time to make additional income so you can continue being a stay-at-home mom and not have to go back to a normal job when things get tight.
Ways To Make Money As A Stay-At-Home Mom
1. Fill Out Surveys – The easiest way to make money online is to fill out surveys. They aren’t the biggest cash generating method but they work and most of them pay. Swagbucks is my favorite.
2. Perform tasks as a microworker – The best part about being a microworker is that there are thousands of tasks available. Unlike surveys, where you’re limited on the amount of surveys you can complete a day, microworker sites allow you to earn a few dollars a day without running out of tasks to complete. You want more money? Complete more tasks.
3. Start an online business – Starting an online business takes longer than the rest especially when it comes to generating income. However, it is the best and most efficient way because it is passive income and generates money over and over again even when you’re not working on it. Wealthy Affiliate teaches you how, plus it’s free!
Going from a working mom to a stay-at-home mom is a scary and exciting thing.
Almost all new stay-at-home moms absolutely love that they made the decision and they thank themselves everyday for taking the giant leap.
The benefits just outweigh the cons by a long shot.
I haven’t heard anyone regret that they made this decision and that’s why I recommend you try it out, or at the very least work part time and stay at home the rest of the week.
Well that concludes this article.
I would like more mothers to speak out. Tell me about your experiences as a stay-at-home mom in the comments below.
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Brandon is from New Zealand and does affiliate marketing full-time. This is his job and loves every second of it. He hated the typical 9-5 and found a way out of the rat race. The reason he created this website was to help and inspire others who also want a way out.