Being stuck in a job you hate is hard, but being stuck in the family business is even harder. There’s more pressure to do good for the family and make them proud.
Trying to leave sounds like an impossible thing to do, especially if you have a close relationship with your loved ones.
Fortunately for you I am going to tell you that it is not your fault and there is definitely a way out.
You do not have to feel trapped, it’s time to live for you and not your family.
I bare all in this article and tell you everything that needs to be done.
Why You Feel Imprisoned
You’ll know what I’m talking about here if you feel trapped like you’re in a prison and there’s no way out.
You can’t leave without destroying family relations, you don’t have any transferable skills, you grew up in the business, the business will probably fail without you and you don’t have any clear passion or goals.
Does any of this sound familiar?
That means you feel trapped and you just want to get out of this prison but you don’t know exactly how to do it or what to do.
The most saddening part is that these individuals can go years, sometimes 10, 20, and even 40 years without ever doing anything about it.
They are so caught up in keeping the family business afloat that they never know what it’s like outside in the real world.
They don’t even know what their strengths and weaknesses are, so they feel that they might as well stay in something they know they’re good at.
And this happens all too often.
The pressure to keep the family business afloat is a huge murderer of your dreams but I’m not going to let that happen to you.
Determine Why You Feel Stuck
Do you have a lot of pressure to do good and take over the family business one day?
Are you the only person that can take over the business?
Don’t you like what you do anymore, but don’t want to say anything cause you’ll let other family members down?
Are you interested in carving your own path?
There are hundreds of reasons you feel stuck, but the first step is determining why you feel this way.
When you can find a reason, you can find a solution.
Do You Want to Stay or Go?
What is it that you really want?
Would you consider staying if sorting things out with the family was a possibility, or do you definitely want to quit?
Trust me, knowing what you want in life is going to make the transitioning process much, MUCH simpler.
Whether that be transitioning to a new job or solving conflict and coming to a mutual agreement.
Because something has to be done now, you can’t go on living life unhappy and trapped in some prison that you can never get out of.
Go here if you think solving conflict is going to make your situation easier.
Maybe a good long sit down and chat with an expert mediator is all you need to solve these issues.
Family Businesses CAN Destroy Family Relationships
In all honesty, sometimes it’s just best to part ways.
Family businesses can, have and will destroy family relationships, that’s a no-brainer.
It happens every day around the world, and you have to ask yourself, is it worth struggling through the mud everyday, fighting with your loved ones only to hate each other and destroy your relationship?
I don’t wish that upon anybody, and if your relationship is at stake, something needs to change…fast.
Even if that does mean leaving the family business to do something else.
I’ve seen it happen all too often, it doesn’t sound like a good idea at first, but deep down everyone knows it’s for the best.
After a couple months everyone is happy again. Relationship rekindled just like that.
They will always be happy to see you, and every visit will be full of laughs and joy, not tension and arguments about getting the next project done.
So What Are Your Options?
Now you know that you’re trapped, you have 3 options up your sleeve.
You can either change your perspective, take action or exit entirely.
Option #1 – Change your perspective
Change the way you see careers and jobs.
Go out and see what you have to do in other jobs. Is it worse than what you’re doing?
What about all the strict rules and regulations people have to abide by everyday?
Maybe the grass isn’t greener on the other side, maybe working in the family business has been the best thing you’ve ever done so far.
The only way to know if you’re doing the right thing is to find out what it’s like in the real world.
Changing your perspective simply means finding out what it’s like to work in other jobs.
One good way to do this is by searching up your ideal job or career on Google and seeing what frustrations other people are having.
They might be totally worse than yours!
Option #2 – Take Action
Taking action means doing the only thing that makes you happy in the family business.
If it’s a restaurant, maybe you love bartending but hate being a waitress.
See if you can do the bartending job full-time since it gives you the most satisfaction.
Talk to your family, tell them your true feelings and propose to them that you just want to do bartending because it makes you happy.
Another example is retail. Maybe you hate all the positions and only love being a cashier.
The strategy here is to work in the position that gives you the most satisfaction, the job that makes you happy and you can get out of bed every morning knowing you’re doing the job you love.
Option #3 – Quit
A lot of people who work in family businesses don’t have outside experience because they were brought up working for their parents.
This makes it extremely difficult to quit because you don’t know what else you’re good at.
Not to mention that your parents have probably been wanting you to take over the business once they retire.
This leaves huge pressure on you and in addition to all the other things mentioned, it makes you feel trapped entirely.
Quitting is the last resort and often times it is the best thing to do.
But sometimes we don’t know, it’s just a matter of following your heart and listening to your gut, because your gut is usually right.
Your mind doesn’t know what it wants, it can trick you into doing something you absolutely hate for the rest of your life.
So follow your heart and your gut will let you know if you’re doing the wrong thing.
Thanks For Reading
I know it’s hard to get out of the family business. Sometimes you feel trapped and you can’t do anything to get out.
Well going through each of these options will help you find what you really want to do.
And if it comes to the crunch, you can quit.
Do you feel trapped in the family business? Comment below! I’d love to hear your thoughts and opinions.