How many times have you found yourself complaining to your best friend about your boss?
Or complaining to your partner about how much you hate your job?
Does this sound all too familiar and is it a good thing for you?
I just read a study and would like to talk a little about it.
What The Study Claimed
The study claimed that venting about your job and all your problems you have with it reduces stress levels and helps you manage the job a little better than keeping everything bottled up.
So what does this even mean and is it 100% true?
I’ll talk about it and then provide some pros and cons so you know whether you are doing more harm than good.
What Happens When You Keep Everything Bottled Up
Ever heard the saying “People take your kindness for your weakness, but when you lash out all of a sudden YOU ARE THE MEAN ONE”?
They push a kind-hearted person to the edge and all of a sudden they just snap.
Yeah, I am one of those people (the kind-hearted one of course).
And when you’re dealing with your job, this can create a bad situation.
A situation where you might quit without a backup plan, you may threaten to fight someone or you might even assault someone as a result of the rage that’s accumulated over the years.
Pros and Cons
Although it might seem like it’s a good idea to vent about your frustrations in the workplace to your friend or partner, keep in mind that there are some pros and cons to it.
- It feels good at that point in time
- It makes us feel supported with someone we can talk to at anytime
- Often times it leads to a solution
- Safer than losing patience and lashing out at someone
- It spreads negativity, and negativity is contagious so you’ll be bringing bad energy wherever you go
- It can damage your reputation especially if you’re known to constantly complain and be negative
- It’s not effective even though it might seem like it. Venting will make you worse in the long run
- It’ll rewire your brain to be negative, which is going to make you even more stressed and negative about other things in life, sometimes even only minor things
- It is harmful to your health since complaining puts you in a stressed frame of mind, which is always bad in the long run
So What Should You Do?
1. Get Together And Talk About It
This might sound a little silly but it has some major benefits when done correctly.
Get together with your boss and coworkers once a month and talk about the problems you don’t like in the workplace.
Not only will you feel happy it’s out of your system but you’ll soon realize your coworkers might have the same complaints as you.
This will make it easier to find a solution, everyone will bond and have a much happier work environment rather than just keeping everything bottled up inside and making everyone unhappy.
However, there is a wrong way and right way to do this.
The wrong way is to gripe your frustrations at a certain person because that will only make him or her have bad feelings towards you and create even more tension in the workplace.
The right way is to complain about common frustrations that everyone can agree upon.
2. Write In A Journal
I’ve talked about this in another article of mine.
A good trick is to document your feelings whenever you feel negative towards someone or something in your workplace.
It is not as damaging as it is to vent to a person and also helps reduce stress and pressure.
This is also going to stop you from making sudden decisions that may affect your employment and even future jobs with other companies.
3. Get Another Job (Last Resort)
If everything you’ve tried still doesn’t help with the situation, look elsewhere.
Even if you are earning a lot of money, your health and well-being is worth 100x more than what any money can offer you.
Too many people stick with toxic jobs because they love the pay but have no idea it’s destroying them on the inside.
Don’t be that person, get out asap and be the happy person you were born to be!
If you’re going to complain about your job constantly why don’t you do something about?
Is it the people in your job you hate, the boss, the work in general?
What are you complaining about and why haven’t you done something about it after all these years?
That’s the questions you have to ask yourself because if you still haven’t done anything about it then you are also to blame.
And as you can see by the pros and cons, venting does more harm than good.
Plus nobody wants to be around a Negative Nancy!
Do you agree or disagree with the information I provided? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
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